The Delicate Balance

I (AJ) can be very stubborn. Take a moment to recover from the shock of that statement. Ok, moving on. I can be very stubborn, and I have always thought that I was the captain of my worldview in all respects. Nature vs. Nurture. I always sided with the fact I could choose my nature. And all that changed when Becky and I were wed.

Marriage has a peculiar way of reminding you just how little you know. Very quickly every hole in my armor was quickly exposed, and I realized that I am more of a product of my upbringing and environment than I ever felt comfortable to admit.

When two people begin communicating on the level of marriage, it is surprising how you can both say the same word, or phrase, or sentence, word-for-word, and be two worlds apart. So the delicate balance began, almost like a dance, of learning our marriage language.

It's funny, because we have learned to have inside jokes and phrases that leave eyebrows raised in question, and we can communicate without saying a word at times. Still, we find each other locked in bewildered gaze trying to decode what was just uttered. Some days we succeed. Some days we need Enigma to sort out what was said.

In the end, it's the best place to be.

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